I lost my anal virginity first and I regret ever straying. But after quite a few years mistakenly having vaginal sex, my husband has decided I’ll be strictly anal from now on. I couldn’t be more excited. But I’m really nervous I’ll become weak and touch my clit. He tends to go away for work once in awhile and we can’t afford a chastity belt. Would you happen to have any suggestions for ways he can ensure I won’t touch even while he’s gone? Your blog is very inspirational btw :)

I think a healthy approach is to recognize that habits can be hard to break and people slip up from time to time, and that’s a normal part of the process of reaching your goals and changing your habits. Do your best, recognize if you’re slipping towards an old habit. If you catch yourself partway through touching your clit, stop yourself. If you do end up touching your clit or using it to orgasm, own up to it, think about whether it was worth it, and dive back in to not using it going forward, trying to last longer without it the next time. If you and your husband have the sort of dynamic this would be appropriate for, you can come up with punishments that you feel are appropriate for touching your clit.

That said, there are things you can do to help. Focus on anal stimulation instead. Wear a butt plug often, use your fingers and a dildo to masturbate anally, and any time you feel the urge to touch your clit, play with your ass instead. If you get that urge while playing with your ass, play harder. Fuck a toy deeper or go to a bigger size, etc., and use it to motivate you to chase anal pleasure instead.

You can also experiment with numbing cream/gel like Orajel if you really find it hard to resist. A small amount applied to your clit will numb it for an hour or so.

Congratulations on getting back into the anal only lifestyle, it sounds like it’s exactly the right thing for the both of you!

Easter anon again. At the beginning of April as I said I was looking forward to doing vaginal again, I said to myself as soon as May rolled around my pussy would get some attention. Now it’s 3 days into May and we haven’t even talked about vaginal. I don’t know why, even though I haven’t had an actual orgasm since, well, March, I’ve enjoyed this past month so much it’s just more appealing now whether I can orgasm from it or not. For now at least we have no intention of going back to vaginal.

Congratulations! I think that’s a great decision to not return to vaginal. As you’ve discovered, it’s a lot more enjoyable to be anal only, and anal is a lot better even without orgasms than vaginal with. After all, there’s a reason so many people keep going anal only—it’s not just a kink or a fetish, there really are reasons and advantages to doing so and once you get enough into the routine you really tend to not want to stop and go back to the way things were with vaginal. Enjoy! It just keeps getting better from here.